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When sorry is not enough

when sorry is not enough

Each of us might have received spanking or verbal abuse in our life and we don’t want to reminisce that time in our life but being a battered woman is a different story.

Sometimes, i would ask myself how do abusive person becomes abusive?  I am trying to recover from the past events of my life.  My father becomes alcoholic and there were days and nights that he was a drunken rageaholic and the helpless me could not do anything about it and i will just sink in to a dream.  There was a time, that i could not bear the beating that i have to leave home and live with my grand mother but, i have to rush coming home with a threat that our house would be burned into ashes.

There were times that i just let the evening pass at the Baclaran Church or stay a night or two with my friend’s house.   Sometimes, i would ask myself why i have to stay in an abusive life and realize that i have little choices and i have to bear.

when sorry is not enough

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They say people become abusive because of some genetics, emotional or even physical child abuse.  An abuser becomes one because he might have experienced abused in his life or perhaps another reason is that he had received so much attention and becomes spoiled.  Studies shows that men believes that they are superior and they think that it is their right, and entitlement to  abuse or control the woman.

My father’s mother is strict yet she spoiled him and he had a miserable marriage that he will always blame me the reasons of why his life was ruined.  For a little girl, learning that fact is somehow trivial and for blaming me with his life is somehow very unreasonable.

I thought that physical abused like holding a knife to to you, spanking you with a stick broom, a wood, banging your head on a post, slapping your face, humiliate you in front of others, hollering in front of strangers can just be found in a movie or television scene but it does happen in real life and that’s a sad reality.

After some realization, he will say sorry and a promise that it will never happened again but this is just an act that never happened until one day, i find a way to be out on his life for good.  I could not say that i married young because i have been able to fulfill my promise on the death bed of my grand mother that i will finish my study.  After graduation, i decided that i will definitely leave my father for good so i would never receive the emotional and physical abuse that i have suffered for years.

They say that physiological abuse is more damaging than physical abuse and when love becomes a traumatic experiences. When i remember the sad days of my life, i cry and becomes angry with my father but then i felt alone again and wish he was still alive so i can have someone to talk with.

I have been into great depression and emotional turmoil in my life that comes into suicidal attempt and when i thought i was over it, reality comes back and i have to face it all again.

How can you know if someone have changed when he still blames you for an abusive act and when someone convinces that it was really you that was crazy afterall. Now, you would ask yourself that things bound to happen because you let it and you have come into realization that part of your life is not yet over and you have to bear with it all over again.

They say that when you suffered abused in your life, there is a tendency that you will abuse your children in the future.  I do hope that this will not happen because i am just continuing the chain but what can i do if i am not the one whose bringing the pain .  When would i realize that i have the will and power to stop it.

Believing is the key for a successful life

Believe in yourself. Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.

Norman Vincent Peale

Believe in yourself

In times of great troubles, that’s the time i most remember my father.  Even if our life was not in the best of condition, he always gives and fees me of inspirational quotes and hope, if there is one believer of hope and dreams, i guess that’s my father.

Even at the midst of great trials and problems, he would say to me that we should Thank God for this opportunity to grow and to be able to survive the length of it.  I wish i can be as tough as him or a more believer like him but i guess, i’m always the worrier and the sponge of stresses of life.

Norman Vincent Peale is one of the great authors he really admire and the inspirational quotes of him was always the words of my father to me.  Maybe the same reason that I am not successful is the fact that i lack believing in my self. I have little faith and that’s what breaks me sometime.

Although my father always have his failures in life, i know that somehow he had died happily because he have seen and witness his one true wish, and that is to see his family together, laughing and having a forgiving heart.

A day with my online friends

A day with my Online Friends

The internet have been my very beneficial to me not just because it gives me additional income and help me win several contests but through it, i was able to meet lovely friends who share a common passion.

My online sis

Last month, i was able to meet two of my online friends, Mommy Hilda and Mommy Ria  with the addition of Sis Arnie  who also lives here in Naga City. It was a fun-filled evening of endless chatting.

With My online friends at SM Naga City (image from Mommy Hilda)

I am very thankful for the chance to finally meet them and it was too sad because the day is so short for us to complete our chit chats.  See you online  :)

Blue Monday - Ruby TuesdayWednesday Whites

Rednesday  Mellow Yellow Monday - Memory Lane Monday

Money, money, where are you?

Reading Forbes magazine, you will be amazed how the rich people have come to acquire their assets and share of stocks.  Have you ever thought what influences their current financial status and how they lived in abundance and wealth?

 Just like any success stories, you will learn that for one to become successful, you need perseverance, courage and luck.  For some people, money comes somewhat easy and most of their endeavor turns successful.

Perseverance has long been associated with hard work, for one to achieve success, you need to work hard on whatever endeavors you will make. Courage means something.  In business, it is like gambling, you need to gamble, enable for you to know the result and how far your business could lead you. It takes a lot of courage to begin a business and if you don’t have that courage, you may not be able to begin whatever plans you have in mind and if you don’t have enough courage to lose, you might end up losing everything because you don’t have the capacity to stand again and face the difficult times in your life.

There were real stories of suicides, (hara-kiri) because they could not face the fact that their business was losing and bills and credits are ranking and bankruptcy was inevitable.

And there comes luck, for some they heavily rely on luck, joining different game of chances, sweepstakes or the famous LOTTO.  It’s always free to dream and dreaming of hitting the Lotto can easily solve all your money problems but there are always good and bad things about having easy money.  The best answer is still patience and perseverance and hope.  Who knows, someday, we were able to live a better life without any worries of money problems.

Pretty Rabbit goes Egg hunting

Happy Easter

The love of our life, is all excited to go egg hunting in our nearby mall.  We have been preparing for three days and she kept on asking me when she will be egg hunting?

So, Easter Day comes and equipped with her bunny ears and plastic egg basket courtesy of SM, we hop on each boutique and establishment saying “Happy Easter” while waiting for the egg with candies inside to be given to her.

Easter Egg Basket

It’s our first time and Mommy is excited too , seeing her adorable Peachy carrying her egg basket full.  We both had a fun time and mommy is exhausted afterwards.  LOL.

Did you see the red dress? I so love it , i promise not to look at it but i guess, i could not help myself. I’m going back to the boutique to fit it.  I wish it does.

Blue Monday -Orange TuesdayRuby TuesdayWednesday Whites


New Year, New Hope

Before the year ends. Let us reminisce the good and bad things that happen to us this year.

2011 was a busy year for me. After giving birth, i spend my days thinking what will happen to me and to my new baby. Although there were happy thoughts, problems and worries, money problems, emotional problems did not escape me.

But I am very grateful because the Lord gave me the strength to cope up with the busy demands of my life.  Days maybe gloomy but having my family besides me helps me to be happy and more stronger.

New year 2012

As another year enfolds us, I have high hopes that life will be better and we will be having a wonderful days free of sickness, less worries and more happiness.

Colorful Weekend with Online friends

bonding with online friends

Life is too short to waste on crying, thinking how your life can be better and how problems can be solved.  Material things would just pass by but friends that you have learned to love and care will stick around.

I am happy that I have them not just to cheer me up when I am lonely or vote for my entry whenever i joined a contest.  There were there simply because we share one common interest and that is our love for our children.

Maybe, it was the first time i have seen some of this moms but it seems that I have known them forever.  I will always be grateful for their undying support and of course just simply being there when I needed them.

Thank you again for the wonderful memory!  I am sharing this post with Colorful Weekends!

Pain and Perseverance- GMA Short Film

Sometimes your life is so much in chaos and you don’t know what to do and you felt that the answers are so hard to find. Just think that your not alone and that would be a sense of relief in your part.

It’s been a while since i have been seeing  this year’s offering of GMA’s short film.  It’s a story of two brothers who alternately worked and goes to school to learn.  While, the one is selling goods to earn them a living, the other brother goes to school to study.  They only had one shoes that is why, the brother who goes to school is the one using it and the other selling the goods will be the one using the slippers.

It was a touching story and come to think of it, this scene are experienced not just one but hundred or even thousand of young children.

Perseverance is one of the virtues we are very well aware but such things like this can be solved and of course with the help of those who can.

Something to Live By

There maybe times I could not say thank you but it does not mean that I am not grateful for all the things you have done.  For all the support and understanding you have given on this stubborn girl, i thank you for that.

For all the love you have given to our family and for listening to my whims and desperation. For giving me positive thoughts and trying to calm me when I have my unreasonable tantrums.  Even though you have your own way , I am very grateful for that.  I may not always say thank you but it does not mean that I am not grateful and I do hope in some other way, you can feel that I am happy for having you and the kids around me.

Our new bundle of Joy- Birth Announcement

We, Mel & Ria Romero
is very proud to announce the birth of our son
Goldritz Melandria Romero
on March 22, 2011
8:51 a.m.
at USI Mother Seton, Naga City
7 lbs. 1 oz – 48.5 cm via cesarean section

We thank you so much for all your prayers and warm wishes.
It was quite a journey, painful not just to my body but to our
wallet too (LOL) but truly worth it and amazing!
There are many things I would like to share but my body and stitches are still aching, and i still need to catch some lose sleeps.
Again, our sincerest Thank you to all our friends, relatives, who supports us along the way!

A Mother’s thoughts is the most precious of all. Join me as I Journey to Life.